Let the children benefit from the nine habits of life

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The habit of children directly affects the life after the children, wise parents should in children at a young age to cultivate the habit of his good, will benefit the children life consciousness, so formed the following nine habit is to success.
One of the good habits - positive selection
1, often tell children things always two sides to everything, let the child know anything positive side and negative side.
2, with a positive view of children, the recognition of their strengths, and told the children the benefits of a positive view on problems, let them have experience of positive selection.
3, to the children exist shortcomings, to treat objectively, even viewed positively, believe that children will be better and better.
4, when the child in a bad mood, told his positive attitude to solve problems.
5, build relaxed and pleasant living environment at home.
Good habit # 2 - independence is the premise
1, help children to find their ability.
Parents are the first thing to believe that their children can be independent, and create a variety of conditions in your life let the children to discover their own ability. You can make a few small, easy to achieve, let the child in the experience of the successful happy to feel independent.
2, can let go let go as far as possible.
When the day is cold, parents don't want to say to children "to wear coat", but to allow children to learn feelings and their own clothes. In order to the child's independent, parents sometimes don't kind to children.
3, respect the child's choice is to let children to be independent.
Basketball athlete Jordan's mother had the least to say that the most difficult and not trust problem, is to allow children not according to my development road for them to determine their dreams and independent decision. "This also is the world most parents worry about. But, if you want to let the child truly independent, parents have to break through this one pass, this is the key to children to be independent".
4, let the child have independent thought.
Independent behavior from independent thought, the child's idea is not at the same time with parents, parents do not have to rush to deny their ideas, but want to ask why they think so. Listen carefully to their statement, let the children to be independent to express their opinions.
Good habit # 3 - strong sense of responsibility
1, simple to complex, from easy to difficult, consciously to the child in the family is decorated some appropriate, its tasks, such as cleaning, responsible for watering flowers and plants, etc., to see whether he can complete, finished immediately to encourage them.
2, listening to the advice of children in family life.
And children often tell me about the cost of home buying, personnel, and please talk to your child about their own views, or please advice to children. When parents often listen to their opinions, take their valuable advice, your child will spontaneously to the family sense of responsibility.
3, let the children learn to self service, don't always say to the children: "you are young." "You don't understand." "You can't." And to give the child a certain exercise opportunity.
The children's growth is striking, far beyond the imagination of the adults. Adults think that kids can't do, may children has been completely have the ability to control. Therefore, parents should give their children some exercise opportunity as far as possible, so that children can enhance the sense of responsibility in the self service.
4, emphasis on the result of doing things, make the child develop either don't do everything, do to do earnestly, doing well, doing excellent self requirements.
5, what parents don't give their children a promise, give the child the demands to fit his age characteristic, otherwise the child is easy to form the not well do not say bad habits.
Good habits of the four -- - perseverance of perseverance
1, conclude some specific goals, to the child every day to do it, and encourage them in time.
2, insist to do one thing when children made some achievements, give them a reward. Reward is not material, can be a look, a smile, or do an improvement to the child.
3, from easy to cultivate the habit of start, gradually cultivate their perseverance, so slowly can achieve constancy.
Some parents always think their children have no staying power, do not insist, also some parents believe that perseverance is the natural thing, there is no way to cultivate, so can only be "hope children couldn't". Actually, yi force can completely cultivated, and habit is a good way to increase stamina, arguably, the two are complementary to each other. Perseverance will be in the habit of develop gradually in the process of production, increase; Gradually produce, enhancement of perseverance, in turn, can be powerfully promote the cultivation of the habit.
Good habits of five --, full of confidence
1, confidence and inferiority often sometimes.
If a person is good at in a positive state of mind to look at themselves, would be easy to self-confidence; If always with a negative attitude to see yourself, is easy to feel inferior. So parents to be more guidance in this respect, help children to see the positive side of things.
2, confidence is gained by accumulation.
Do one thing success is easy to increase confidence, do a thing failed, would be easy to increase the inferiority. So, it is recommended that parents not to give the child set unrealistic goals, it not only can help children to succeed, it will hit the child's confidence.
3, cultivate their spirit of nails.
Nails are on solid wall, because it is very sharp, also is not very big; Because of the nail, we use the hammer, is to use the force is very large. If we do not use Lang nail nails, the rolling surface, but punch nail will not go in, because the target is too big, too small. Parents also give their children some similar and story, lets the child understand business goals and the strength of the relationship between spirit and nail to deal with life encountered in the accident.
4, to let children believe that inherent my material will be useful.
Everything in the world, has his own personality characteristics and use, thus formed the boundless universe. Parents should give their children speak the truth, also can take children to the nature, let the child see landscape grass flower. Tell a child wei shan mountain, water gurgling water, flowers have fragrance of flowers, grass, grass green. Parents should also be good at discovering and distinctive characteristics of your child's strengths and carry forward the characteristics of them in time.
Good habits of six - respect
1, respect the important characteristic is the opportunity of the development to the person, each person's personality.
Both self-respect and respect for others, therefore, all need to look at people we don't have a fixed mode, requirements. Believe that everyone has his own behavior for the right reasons.
2, we need to respect the child's ideas, don't always see the child as being the object of education, give children the opportunity to express their opinions. So that means that the parents in an example to the child, lets the child understand what is respect.
3, respect the Labour of others.
Respect for people, not only to respect everyone's ideas and personality, respect the Labour of others. For example, when others swept the ground clean, do you know how to cherish; When friends invite you to dinner, do you know how to thank you...
4, respect for different classes. Respect that everyone's life experience, since it is everyone's, means that every life can have different experience. Therefore, in the face of the vulnerable groups, to tell kids see them equally, to communicate with them, rather than just pity and charity.
5, respect is the precondition of democracy, so parents should create democracy in the family environment as much as possible, this is the cultivation of the silent.
Good habits of seven --, keep good faith
1, parents set a good example, words and deeds, to colleagues, to friends, to neighbors, pay attention to good faith, for children speak honest and credit.
2, if there is a problem, the parents don't shirk responsibility, also do not want to teach children to shirk responsibility.
Responsibility is linked with credibility, if responsibility in children, seize the education opportunity, lets the child learn to take responsibility.
3, give the child to build a "credit deposit", each time a child has done something good faith, will be in the book of the Chronicles of the above, this is equivalent to give their children some encouragement. Time is long, the habit of good faith will develop slowly.
4, don't put fluky psychology, not showed.
Whether study or in life, want to tell their children not showed, any a petty gains will ruin your reputation. Honest to treat every person, every thing, the people around will also take the good faith in return for you.
Good habits of eight - to benefit
1, parents at home and try to find something that everyone is interested in doing, we are interested in, is good for everybody, do happy, play happily, let children feel the value of "benefit". Parents should not only consider the child's interest, but also added his own interest, lets the child learn to consider parents' hobbies and interests.
2, find some beggar-thy-neighbour, SunRenHaiJi reports showed children, discuss with children in time, analysis the relationship of the people, let the children talk about how to be the most suitable.
3, in the market to buy the thing like a child, let the child understand the principles of business success is benefit, we get something like businessmen made money. If businessmen lose money, he won't sell things out.
4, in the process of children and friends, and encourage the children to consider for others. Can start from the side people, first think of parents, for example, for the sake of grandpa's grandmother, in the interests of students and so on.
Good habits of the nine -- - when you're good to others
1, some parents often say: "I really don't know my children, because he didn't listen to me so much!" In fact, it is not logically. It should be said that parents for children, the first thing to listen to your children, listen to many children will know in what to think, what he wants, complain about what, what you need. Therefore, it is recommended that parents, children equal dialogue and squatted down, at the same time also to teach children to learn to understand the people around, with equal view of the surrounding and their living environment different people.
2, when you're good to others, learn to appreciate.
An expert once talked about a strange phenomenon. He said that once held the Chinese and foreign children test, test score after let children take home to their countries' parents, respectively, the result of China's parents look after the children's performance, 80% are not satisfied, while 80% said foreign parents satisfaction. And the actual results? In fact, the achievement of foreign children than Chinese children. This shows that Chinese parents use critical eye to look at children, think of others and the world. While foreign parents used to appreciate the view of children, think of others and the world. So, it is recommended that parents with appreciate the vision to see the child, and teach children to discover the strengths of others, sincere appreciation to others.
3, when you're good to others learn to care for people.
This is the most important thing when you're good to others. Education is the important secret of love, we often say that love child embarrassed to make mistakes, is also one of the means. Parents should let children know how to love your elders, students love, love the teacher.